Once upon a time, there was a hunter, who got lost in the jungle. He could not  find anybody to ask the way out, and he was becoming more and more frightened. Three days had already passed by, he had no food, he was in constant fear of wild animals. For three days he had not been able to sleep; he had been sitting awake on some tree, afraid he might be attacked. There were snakes, there were lions, there were wild animals...
The fourth day early in the morning, he saw a man sitting under a tree. Imagine his joy! He rushed up, he hugged the man, and he said “What a joy!” And the other man hugged him, and both were immensely happy. Then they asked each other, “Why are you so ecstatic?”
The first said, “I was lost, and I was hoping to find somebody.”
And the second said, ”I am also lost, and hoping to meet somebody. But if we are both lost, then the ecstasy was for nothing. Now we are lost together.”

“Do not get lost in the trap of hope. Do not get caught in the idea that help is coming from outside yourself. The other is not going to fulfill you. Fulfillment is within.”

Zen Buddhism